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Custom Therapy Methods & Keeping Our Minds

Writer's picture: Mmakgobane MaphalaMmakgobane Maphala

Updated: Oct 2, 2021

Warning: Content in this blog post may be seen as inappropriate and sensitive. Reader discretion is advised.



Sex      Bukkake      Erotic Poetry      Masturbation

Some solo play,
A quiff release of the right kind, 
A community-based activity and 
Some versatility.
Just some ways to help with multiple kinds of aches of the mind
All introducing vulnerability, 
Openness, 
Honesty, 
Exploration, 
A quirk and press of the mind and 
Some new sights to linger upon
Not to mention some tastes, 
Sounds, 
Vibrations with some 'aahs' to release
Not For Everyone
Mere Examples

Full of wonder, 
Curiosity and flow
Teachers of touch and trust 
With a custom path to go
I am always one to try different things,
Read about others that tickle my fancy.
Sex is multifaceted
Another perspective based thing
Sex is the root of gender rectification,
Gender affiliation,
Riots,
Deaths,
Plunges,
A snap in the mindset,
A rise in voice and
A crush in soul
It is what we give to children and strangers
Clearly beyond intercourse and outercourse
Another form of mental illness
A craze of the world
Shamed like the mind of the depressed
And cut off as if its multiple personalities are nothing but
Toxic
Non-consensual domination as the medication
Beyond the magic of mania and
Forbidden to some figures of faith
Not For Everyone,
Mere Examples.

The poem was written by Mmakgobane


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Custom therapy methods are just another way of saying that one should do things their own way. It is a way of creating your own world with things and phrases that just send your mind flying. With pleasures that just break you down and make you wish you were just as fluid.


Bukkake Me!


What bukkake shows us is that all fetishes should be celebrated. **No kink-shaming!** Bukkake fuels the notion that people can't be without people, that people can take care of each other. Feed, play, support, pleasure and make one another feel important and part of the cause.


Bukkake says, "There is more where that came from and we will work together to get it".



There is more than enough to share and they will even spoon-feed you if you wish. Again, it can be viewed as the nastiest act ever but it will never change the benefits the participants (or even viewers) take away from it. The acts are engaging, shame and judgment-free. If you feel uncomfortable then you should speak to the host.


Maybe you want to know everybody's test results to be sure that you won't be contracting any STIs, STDs, or anything of that nature. Maybe you want to know the dress code (if there is any) or whether you should bring a cup and a spoon to enjoy as much of the festivities as you can. All your concerns and ticks should be directed to the host of the party before, during, and after.


Bukkake: is a sex act in which one participant is ejaculated on by multiple participants. It originated from Japan in the 1980s.

For some women, bukkake is an act of power and dominance over men. They see it as men working for the woman's pleasure. Lining up like good little boys, stroking themselves and waiting for the mistress to help them release.


I agree with that notion although the roles and even the shift of power can be reversed for those that wish to do so. It just so happens that it's harder to make women squirt and not all women can.


Unfortunately, there have been people who abuse others with bukkake. Regrettably, abuse occurs with all kinds of sexual activity which is why there are those of us who fight for sex work to be legal and for sex workers to have rights like everyone else and receive free healthcare.


Let's not forget that abuse (in sex and probably other scenarios) is when someone does not consent to the activities taking place and the person instigating them does not stop when the agreed-upon safe word is used. Abuse can not be concluded by outsiders as we never know the kinks of others but a word of advice, comfort and therapy can be given to those who are unsure of whether they have been violated.






Let's Talk About Sex, baby!


Anticipation Preparation Foreplay Surrender Dominance The Act


So there are only two kinds of sex, so far: Penetrative and non-penetrative (outercourse). Basically, sex is for everyone despite your gender, disability, age, and/or whatever else you may be experiencing or living with but, of course, truth is relative and you should never just take my word for it.


You don't even need to have a partner to have and enjoy sex. For some, solo play may even be the best way to start. With sex, it is important to educate yourself before engaging in anything even with solo play. This is to protect, inspire and excite your mind, emotions, and body. Not to say that you should throw your instincts out the window, they are crucial too. One without the other could cause trauma and a collapse in how you view and experience sex.


While all this is not necessarily in your control, it is extremely significant to make the effort in protecting yourself and pleasuring yourself. Done right, safely, informed and custom to your freedom, truth, and norms - sex can be a large stepping stone on the path to healing, even with a partner. It has the capabilities of healing some of the worst and minor kinds of things such as sexual trauma, insomnia, anxiety, insecurities, OCD, etc. At the very least, it will help lead a more satisfying life with whatever you may be experiencing or living with.


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Partners are there for comfort, exploration, and dimensional experiences. Sex is a gateway to a flood of information and possibilities and having a supportive, patient, non-shaming and non-judgemental partner/s is key to all that when it comes to sex with a partner/s.

Always look after your health when engaging in sex with multiple partners, and theirs too!


Everybody, even children, should know that consent is as easy as FRIES


*F - Freely given. Consent is something you give without any pressure and the influence of drugs and alcohol


*R - Reversible. Anyone can change their mind about what they feel like doing, anytime. Even if you’ve done it before, and even if you’re both naked in bed


*I - Informed. You can only consent to something if you have all the information. For example, if someone says they’ll use a condom and then they don’t, there isn’t full consent.


*E - Enthusiastic. When it comes to sex, you should only do stuff you WANT to do, not things that you feel you’re expected to do


*S - Specific. Saying yes to one thing (like going to the bedroom to make out) doesn’t mean you’ve said yes to others (like having sex).



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